Why You Will Lose Family & Friends as an Entrepreneur
If you’ve been following along with this series of blog posts at all, you may be thinking “There is something MORE I have to worry about now?”
It’s the very real, and very sad truth of the matter.
You will lose some people close to you on this journey towards being an entrepreneur.
Why is that, you ask?
Well, we’ve compiled some reasons from the many, many stories we’ve heard over the years (and some of these have happened to us, too!)
Reason #1: People Don’t Understand Your “Why”
We as entrepreneurs are definitely wired a bit differently.
Sometimes those in your direct circle just WILL NOT understand why you want to do this.
Why would you want to quit your job?
You’re going work an extra 40 hours a week on top of your day job to get your business started?
Why would you choose working on your business over hanging out with us?
Most people are so conditioned to things that are the “norm”. You go to college, you get a job, you work at said job until you retire.
They can’t comprehend why you need to be different, and live differently.
And unfortunately, even after multiple attempts to explain it, there are those few who STILL won’t understand.
And that just sucks.
Reason #2: They Are Jealous
I know, I know, this one sounds a little crazy!
But it’s true.
There are those that will see what you’re doing; taking control of your own life, building your dream, throwing off the shackles, being a bit of a “rebel”.
They will secretly want what you have, but aren’t willing to give up their comfortable life or put in the work to get there.
So they will envy you. And some of them will try to pull you back down to their level.
They’ll jump on your failures. They will brush off your successes.
You will have people you once called friends join your official “hater” club.
It’s just something that comes along with the territory.
Reason #3: People Won’t Be Supportive of Your Choices.
This is a BIG one.
It often goes a long with the first reason. It’s hard for family & friends to offer support when the don’t understand your reasons for doing this.
“Why can’t you get a REAL job like everyone else?!”
“Aren’t you home all day? Can’t you just <insert random errand> for me?”
“Do you even make any money?”
Ugh it’s the worst.
When you’re friends aren’t supportive, as much as it hurts, you need to surround yourself with other people who will show you that support.
When your family isn’t supportive, it can often cause extra drama and stress, which is the LAST thing you need.
So whether it’s your choice or theirs, the gap between you will widen, and eventually you’ll drift apart.
Reason #4: Your Spouse Will Not be OK With Losing Your Time.
By far one of the biggest questions we get, is how can I get my spouse to support me while I build me business?
And the answer will be the same for everyone: TALK to them.
I can’t tell you how many times we’ve been asked this.
And for your relationship to last through this journey of yours, you need to communicate with your significant other.
They may not be interested in helping you.
They may not completely understand it.
And the absolute number one thing they will not be on board with, is not having time set aside for the two of you.
So if you’re going to go forward, be ready to have some tough conversations, and be ready to compromise.
You have 3 options as I see it:
A Successful Business but no Spouse.
A Happy Spouse, but no Business.
An understanding Spouse, and a Business schedule that works for everyone.
And the last one may just be the hardest for any parentpreneurs…
To help you with this, we put together this video that walks through how to get your spouse on board.
Reason #5: Your Kids Will Ask Why You Are ALWAYS Working.
This one just gives you a swift kick to the gut when you hear it.
Nothing worse than disappointing your kids.
And this feeling of failing them can quickly make you lose your motivation.
It’ll make you question everything you’re working for.
Just as you did with your spouse, you have GOT to find a way to get through to your kids so they understand.
We like to use: “We’re working to make it so Mommy & Daddy can be home ALL the time, and we can do more fun family things together.”
Be sure to set aside “special time” for you and your children without your laptop or cell phone.
And when it’s time to work, be open with them and be firm.
Include them in on what you’re doing!
Help them start their own business at a young age.
The Main Takeaway:
Communicate with your loved ones, and share your why.
Find your support system somewhere, or your journey will be a lot harder.